of illness including growing Pains are really understood.
Inappropriate actions or behaviours, mostly are considered;
the person is seeking attention, this may be true to an
extent but in reality, not true at all.
seeking is a term created by people who have little or no
understanding of the effects of trauma on us as children.
Usually as a result of their own traumatic past and their
lack of desire to re-visit it.
only become ill by what we see or hear - we could include
touch, however most often this is too late as the eyes have
already registered the action (an imminent beating) - in the
formative (Up to 21) years of our lives or when we leave the
parental home (which ever comes first) - automatically
without our knowledge or consent choosing illness as a last
resort to gain understanding.
Pain/illness, inappropriate behaviour is designed - without
realising - by a traumatised person to gain understanding
that was lost within or not given following a trauma.
the Person responsible for the trauma is unaware - as a
result of their own Psychological - thought process damage -
they have inflicted a trauma on us - as children.
thinking they are either doing us a favour or make sure we
do not grow up "to suffer in the same manner they did,"
failing to see we always suffer much worse than they.
we are responsible. Neither Guilty or a purposeful action,
for allowing the situation to affect us by changing our
parameters, the way we run our life. Without life’s
experience to judge against or aware us of what changes -
without realising, we have automatically made changes that
will make us ill, in Pain or generally speaking in the
Medium to Long-term highly successful.
It is also
said by Professors of Medicine or other high ranking Medical
personnel; High-achievers are extremely susceptible to
certain illness's: ME, CFS, Manic Depression-Bi-Polar
of this may well be true, however, when these same Medical
personnel, doing the best they are able say...
"We do not know the cause
of this, or how to treat the Person...,"
other than Kudos or research funding is this statement to
answer is so simple to grasp as the paragraphs above and
pursuit of understanding to resolve the trauma and
subsequent sensitivity, the Mind uses any tools that it can,
to bring about an understanding, including creating Physical
Pain and illness as well as Psychological disturbances or
inappropriate Social Behaviours...
If there is
no resolution - understanding, from and by the now negative,
destructive, significant People in our lives, then, "we"
automatically create illness.
or Inspiration is possibly the brakes on Madness, if we look
back through history, most if perhaps not all of our
greatest creators and innovators had serious concerns
regarding their Mental or Physical health and so often died
early in their creative life.
Is it not fair to ask "if
they were not creative" - what would have happened to them?
Or is it
because; when the trauma(s) occurred, we did not have life
experiences, to enable us to resolve the trauma(s.)
all the parameter changes we make, we become excuser's. We
still do not have the ability to resolve it, because of one
very basic factor.
Through our actions in pursuit of
finding somebody who CAN understand; with a very, very
specific understanding; when the
Patient/sufferer does not,
cannot, will not tell,
thus the Person has to be able to understand - without
the sufferer saying a word.
These are all symptoms -
there are many more, of a Person seeking understanding.
What do I have to do!
Please others, always and only at our my own expense.
Use Pain illness then I will be
The only tool - illness - left, to get understanding!
Illness and Pain are the means by which I will gain
Understanding for what...
them to no longer be able to follow a true path of pleasure,
thus there is no alternative but to look to the perpetrators
and then any one who will listen, to give them the answer or
explanation of traumas.
It is this process that
causes the breakdown of relationships and marriage.
and working towards enabling traumatic events in our Mind to
be resolved and the individual, more closely follow a true
path of Mind, Body and Emotional Happiness.
over riding program becomes more and more difficult the
Person suffers Fear, Anxiety and Stress, which in turn
causes the Mind to become more determined to the point of
“What do I have to do to
get some serious Understanding?”
become more ill, do something bizarre. Watch any film and
this story is always there.
Person who cannot stop: Eating, Talking, Take Drugs, drink
lots of Alcohol, Dye Hair some colour or other, install
Nails in various and many parts of the body, Run away from
home, etc, etc, etc.
create an illness that defies the best of Medical Science or
takes our lives before our time and always at the most
or so following marriage a couple start to argue, so often
the argument is over something silly, soon/never forgotten.
story, the marriage breaks down, some or most times neither
party knows the real reason, blaming each other.
really happened is one or both it does not matter which,
have made the other into their punitive Person (punishing)
the subconscious idea and desire being to force the other
party to understand.
How often have we heard in a
harsh exchange of words.
"You do not Understand?"
Within the confines of our
traumatised Mind we make a partner into a punitive Person to
recreate traumatic events or emotive responses, created by
the real Punitive Person
- it could be any one or more of any of the People in our
life. Mother, Father, Grand Parents whether we knew them or
not, Aunts, Uncles, Brothers, Sisters, Teachers, Doctors and
we nowadays must include second, third and even forth
generation Aunts and Uncles or perhaps better said; Mum or
Dads New partner(s) and their families.
the other party cannot possibly understand - although they
try their best - an event separated from the present by so
the now punitive (punishing) Person tries to demonstrate
they understand, the more the understanding will be denied.
where Psychological Game Playing comes into force.
seeking understanding; Asks a question; the Punitive Person
replies as best as they can.
asks the same question again, with a subtle alteration to
the words. the Replier answers again as best as possible.
on for a period of time, as long as three weeks, but could
question is still basically the same, yet for the listener
it sounds quite different.
Again the reply is made with integrity, believing the answer
to be that as required.
then turns on the replier and states you have contradicted
yourself, “Three weeks ago you said!!!
question was never designed to be answered; more it was
designed to place the Punitive Person into an emotive
position where they - must now understand.
earth can the replier understand such a demand, from here
the breakdown of the relationship starts?
This is a scenario post
twenty-one or leaving the Parental home, it is the same at
what ever age you care to apply it to.
Peter Smith Talking Cures
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document dated 26th September 2005 Amended 27th January